Aliveness: It Has Everything To Do With How On Track You Feel
Question for you:
In this moment how alive do you feel? And by alive I mean, how joy-filled/blissful/happy do you feel?
Why do I ask?
Because…
How alive you feel in any given moment is a good indicator of how on track you really are.
You may have heard this said many times but it’s worth repeating, your emotions are always a sign as to whether you are on track or off track. Feelings like joy, despair, sadness, peace, happy, angry, held-back, inspired, etc. indicate immediately how aligned you are with the core of who you really are. These feelings mean something and what they mean has absolutely nothing to do with what’s happening outside yourself!
For example:
A woman is spending a day with friends when one of them announces her plans to quit her job and start her own business. Suddenly, in her mind, she starts judging her friend for her choice and she notices herself feeling very uneasy. At first thoughts like “who does she think she is” and “that’s the most ridiculous idea I’ve ever heard” run through her mind. She thinks her friend must be the most foolish person she’s ever met.
Then she starts noticing how uncomfortable her body is feeling. She feels agitated and notices she starts to withdraw from her group of friends.
So what’s really going on? Well for sure her inner judge came to the surface, and along with the judge came a deep feeling of envy.
You see, secretly this woman has dreamt many times of starting her own business. She knows exactly what she’d do and how she’d do it. But she doesn’t see HOW she could do such a thing! Isn’t it irresponsible? Selfish? Naïve?
But instead of turning her attention inward, she focuses her attention outward. She puts her focus on what her friend is doing because that’s the only way she has of not putting her attention on where it should be…herself.
She’s not giving herself something she really wants at a deep, core level of her being…the experience of leading and creating her own life by following what makes her feel deliciously alive! Because she hasn’t said YES to what she really wants she feels uncomfortable and even envious of people who DO give themselves what they want. Her inner being…her spirit…knows how it wants to be expressed, but because she’s not allowing herself the experience she wants she is out of alignment with the core of who she really is and that makes her unhappy.
We’ve all known someone like that…and at some point in our own lives we have been like this.
When have you felt angry, jealous, frustrated, sad, worried, etc. etc. but instead of taking ownership of how you’re feeling you’ve blamed someONE or someTHING else for your feelings? How have your judge and critic defense mechanisms jumped in to stop you from feeling your true feelings?
I guess you could say it’s human nature to do so but doing so too much will keep you from living the life you were born to live.
So what’s the answer?
To start you can ask yourself a simple question whenever you feel a negative emotion arise:
What, in this moment, am I not giving myself?
You see, negative emotions are always an indicator you aren’t giving to yourself something your heart and soul needs and wants to feel the most alive. And as hard as you try to get it from something or someone outside yourself you’ll always be left wanting more because getting anything anywhere but within yourself is simply a band aid.
If you ever wonder how on track your life and business really are just check in with yourself. How alive, in this moment, do you really feel? If you feel good deep inside, great, you’re being, doing or having something in this moment that is aligned with your authentic self and your deepest burning desires. But if you feel “bad” then ask yourself what needs to change, and then give yourself the gift of changing what’s not working for you.
